Mom’s of multiples where are you at?

Are you like me, where you want your kids to grow up and be best friends? Do you want your kids to have a lasting bond?

While I have littles now, I have learned from other moms of many and my parents. One thing that has worked and I wish my parents would have done sooner is something that you can start sooner or later.

Sharing rooms.

I have a mom friend that has several kids and one thing that she did out of necessity was having her boys share rooms. I noticed when I was around them that there was a comradery that I didn’t often see in siblings.

I for one didn’t feel that with my siblings when I was growing up. The youngest of three, I was the annoying younger sibling. I wanted so badly to be included in what my brother and sister were doing. But I always felt like they didn’t want me around.

As we got older my brother and I were always at the same school and my sister was at another. Except for elementary school where we all attended for a short time.

He and I would walk to school together, and I came to rely on him as my protector there. I was never in the same school as my sister until high school. She a senior and I a freshman. So I was the newbie at school and an annoying freshman at that.

It wasn’t until my sister and I shared a room that we began to grow a bond that would last through several moves, one where she moved across the country. While we still annoyed each other we were forced to work it out because we had to share the same space.

So when my husband and I began having children, having our kids share rooms was a must.

The reason for that was not only space, but we wanted our boys to have a head start on creating a bond that lasts. By having them share the same space, they learn to be considerate to each other. They learn to rely on each other. They become each other’s best friends.

As our boys have grown up, I have seen this bond weave itself not only through them but through to their sister and younger brother. The love, the care and the compassion that emulates from my children so much of the time, I believe comes from the intentionality my husband and I have had since the time we brought each child home.

If you are looking for a way to nurture that bond that siblings should have, allow them to share a room.

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*disclaimer*

While this has worked for us, this may not work for all circumstances. And we do not have our little girl share a room with her brothers anymore since they are all getting older. The boys need their privacy and so does their sister.